Does He Really Support YOU - My Body, My Choice

Why “whatever you choose”  isn’t supportive at all.

“My body, my choice.”

For decades, that phrase has been a rallying cry for women’s rights, bodily autonomy, and freedom from government overreach. It has told lawmakers to stay out of exam rooms and reminded men that they do not carry pregnancies.

But somewhere along the way, an unintended consequence emerged: the slogan that was meant to empower women has, in far too many cases, isolated them at the very moment they feel most vulnerable.

The Moment the News Turns Isolating 

Picture this:

A young woman stares at a positive pregnancy test. Heart racing, she tells the father of the baby—her boyfriend, fiancé, or husband—hoping for reassurance, a plan, a shared future.

His response:

“Well… It’s up to you. Whatever you choose, I support you.”

In four short seconds, the entire weight of the decision shifts.

What began as “we’re pregnant” becomes “your body, your problem.”

The miracle of a new life or the stress of a surprise pregnancy is suddenly framed as a menu of options—parenthood, adoption, or abortion—and she alone must choose which path to take.

That is not empowerment. That is abandonment wearing the mask of respect. This is a lot of weight to carry on your shoulders all alone in the name of “support”.

The Communication Gap Nobody Talks About

We cannot place all the blame on men.

Men tend to be direct, task-oriented communicators. When society, courts, politicians, and even well-meaning family members repeat “It’s her body, her choice,” many men hear a clear instruction: This decision belongs to her alone. My job is to stay neutral and follow her lead.

They are doing exactly what they’ve been told.

Women, on the other hand, often communicate relationally. When she says, “I’m pregnant,” she is usually not asking for a multiple-choice answer—she is asking, “Are we in this together? Will you fight for us?”

“Whatever you choose” answers the wrong question.

What Real Support Actually Sounds Like

True support does not abdicate responsibility; it embraces it.

Genuine support says:

• “We created a life. Let’s figure out together how we’re going to love and raise this child.”

• “I’m scared too, but I’m all in.”

• “Here’s the budget I worked out. Here’s the bigger apartment I found. Here are the three jobs I’m applying for.”

• “Marry me. Let’s do this right.”

It shows up at doctor’s appointments, holds her hair when morning sickness hits, and refuses to let her carry the fear alone.

A Call to Both Sides

To women: be brave enough to speak plainly. Tell him what you need—prayer, a plan, a proposal, a promise. Autonomy is real, but partnership is better.

To men: understand that silence is not neutrality; it is a vote. Step up before she has to decide alone, because once the weight is entirely on her shoulders, the outcome is far more likely to be the one neither of you will ever forget.

“My body, my choice” was never meant to become “my burden, my heartbreak.”

Let’s stop letting it happen.

Real empowerment doesn’t leave a woman standing alone in a clinic parking lot, wondering why the man who helped create this life disappeared the moment it became hard.

Because love doesn’t say “whatever you choose.”

Love chooses.